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The only thing you really need to concern yourself with is the present moment. Worrying about the future drains your energy, creates stress and anxiety, and pulls you out of the all-important connection you have with yourself and others around you right now.

I used to say that I was so lucky I didn’t pull the relationship card in this lifetime.

I believed that because my relationship contained “less drama” than what I perceived others to experience and I found my person relatively early in life (my husband and I have been together since college) that I didn’t pull that card to work on in this lifetime.

But the reality is that we ALL pull that card.

As Spring settles upon us, we feel the strain and tug of things we’ve carried all Winter. The dead brush is ready to be cleared to make way for bright, beautiful blooms and new growth.

Have you been feeling it? I sure have.

As I continue on my path to Awakening, putting my voice out into the world in ever-evolving ways, much has risen to the surface for me to wash away with the April showers.

Have you ever taken a leap of faith? If so, were you completely terrified right before leaping?

I sure was.

This past weekend I stepped out of my spiritual closet and into the light in a way I had never done before when I did my first public channeling event.

For those of you who don’t know what channeling is let me explain it to you.

New Year’s Day for me lands much differently than many.  I find myself wanting quiet relaxation and inward reflection rather than celebrating and doing.  Winter in general is a time for all of us to turn inward to reflect on what has come over the past months while we integrate and assimilate what we have learned.

I’ve sat down to write this blog post countless times and every single time I found myself staring at a blank page. Ironic when I am trying to write about the process of receiving that I can’t seem to receive the words needed. But that’s just it, it’s not about being in effort or trying at all. The very act of receiving signifies the need for us to surrender for us to let go of the attachment to the outcome and open ourselves up, create a clear channel to receive whatever it is we need. It seems this time of year that we should all be good at receiving, most of the holiday season is about giving and receiving gifts, but so many of are not capable of it.

“What the heck are the divine feminine and masculine?”

“Why is it important and what does it have to do with manifesting abundance?” 

“Do men and women carry both energies?”

These are common questions I receive from my students and clients when I speak about the terms “divine feminine” and “divine masculine.” These terms have little to do with gender and gender roles. 

Regardless of your gender identity, you contain both energies at all times in different levels or quantities.  What these terms are really code for is this: our ability to give and to receive, to be in effort or to be in ease.

Have you ever felt you should be so completely happy with your life and everything you’ve achieved but somehow, deep down, feel unfulfilled and empty? I certainly have. When I was finally able to admit that to myself, it initiated quite a journey of personal transformation.

What if we loved the endings we experience as much as the beginnings?  Recently as I have navigated endings of relationships, projects and other chapters in my life I’ve begun to realize that the beauty lies not in the wondrous excitement of beginnings but in the dark night of the endings.  Those moments where things are falling away and I am confused as to where to go next or what steps to take to make the that future goal happen are when I find the sweetest gift of silence to reflect on the ups and downs of the experience, relationship or chapter that is closing.  To reflect on the truths unveiled, the lies released from my space, the growth and the change. I take time in that moment to appreciate that I am alive and well enough to have chapters finishing while new ones are just aching to begin.

I used to say that I didn’t pull the relationship card in this lifetime but the truth is I did, we all did. None of us are exempt from the work related to our relationship house. Just like our actual home we have to care for our relationship house consistently. We have to clean it and honor it like our sacred space. We all arrive in this world with some level or relationship mess to clean up simply because we are born from two people who were in some level of relationship when they created us. At a minimum we have learned behaviors and programs picked up from our parents that impact many if not all of our relationships. Even if we had the best of role models in our parents we all carry some level of relationship work to be done, even if its just the relationship with ourselves that needs to be cared for. So even if we think we have avoided the dramas of serious relationship issues because as we compare ourselves to others we’ve got it “easy”, the reality is we all have work to do in this arena.

As my heart opening process has continued over the last couple of weeks, my guides have been showing me more and more about how to live in my heart. In my last blog post I wrote about the “Open Hearted Warrior” . I shared some of the characteristics of the OHW (read it here). Today I want to share how you can become an Open Hearted Warrior.

Do you associate an open heart with a lack of boundaries and protection? Do you believe that being open hearted makes you vulnerable?

Most of us guard our heart more closely than we guard our wallets.  We hide from and avoid people, situations and things that may hurt us.  We shield ourselves from experiences that might impact us in a negative way.  But what if we could experience open hearted joy with wild abandon while still holding healthy energetic boundaries?  It is possible and this is what I call being an Open Hearted Warrior (OHW).

It’s only been a year.  I keep reminding myself of that over and over again.  Exactly one year ago today I found out that I was laid off from my big shiny corporate job.  It was the day before we left for our annual trip to YogaJam in Floyd, Va.  The moment we showed up at the festival I stepped out of the RV and sprained my ankle badly.  So I got to sit and watch everyone else do yoga all weekend while I stewed in my crap.  My phone doesn’t work in Floyd so I couldn’t even distract myself with Facebook.  It was freaking miserable, but it was exactly what I needed.  

What happens when you say yes to the universe?  Amazing, unbelievable, life altering things happen.  

Recently I asked the universe for support with getting more people to experience my work in a way that didn't make me feel uncomfortable about putting myself out there. And amazingly within a week that support showed up.  

But then the universe said to me, "Ok now I've given you what you asked for are you ready to receive it?"  Well my friends, that was the million dollar question.