As my heart opening process has continued over the last couple of weeks, my guides have been showing me more and more about how to live in my heart. In my last blog post I wrote about the “Open Hearted Warrior” . I shared some of the characteristics of the OHW (read it here). Today I want to share how you can become an Open Hearted Warrior.
Do you remember the story of the velveteen rabbit? It was one of my favorite books as a child. In the story the velveteen rabbit desperately wants to become “REAL” and he asks the oldest toy in the boys toy box, the wise old horse, how to make it happen. The horse explains that you just become “REAL”. It is not something you have to create or be in effort around. You just are who you are and over time you just become “REAL”.
My guides reminded me of this story when I asked them how to become an open hearted warrior. They reminded me that it is our attachment to the thing we want that keeps it from happening. That we must let go of the egoic attachment we experience on a day to day basis. The attachment to things, to people, to how we are viewed in the world that our ego uses to build the false sense of self we project out into the world. As we drop the egoic attachment the heart opens more and more to the possibility of the present moment, the possibility of who we truly are at our core, at our most vulnerable. We learn to live in our joy and stay in our open heart experiencing the moment rather than always planning for the future or hanging on to our past.
Opening your heart while still remaining in your power is a process of feeling into every moment, setting aside the opinions of others, the programs and learned behaviors you’ve adopted over the years and feeling into your truth, deep inside your being. As you feel into that truth you simply ask is this person, experience, or thing in alignment with me? If you get a NO then you pause and break it down, what isn’t in alignment? Is it an aspect of that situation or choice or is it the situation as whole? You then speak your truth in the moment and ask for what is in alignment. Perhaps you want to go to dinner with that person but not tonight, you are too tired and exhausted from your day, so you schedule for some time in the future. You recognize that the person across from you has needs and wants and you have compassion for them but you don’t sacrifice your health and wellbeing to make them happy. You have an open an honest conversation with them and if they are not able to hold space for that and it happens over and over again then you may then decide that they are not the person for you.
This is how you become an Open Hearted Warrior. You feel deeply into your heart and choose joy, you choose expansion but not to the detriment of others. You hold compassion for those around you, even those who are not in alignment with you. But that compassion doesn’t become self-sacrifice or self-deprecation, you simply become “a REAL Open Hearted Warrior” by being in alignment with what is “REAL” for you, what is best for you. Exactly like the velveteen rabbit.